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Divorce: What not to do to your kids
Divorce is a very adult decision that affects everyone; the kids, the pets, the friends, the in-laws and the out-laws. How do you get through such a huge life event without screwing it up? First, know you will, inevitably, make mistakes. … Continue reading
Posted in Blended or Step Family, Divorce, Marriage, parenting, Step Moms
Tagged children, divorce, kids in divorce, step parenting
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Infidelity – Summary
Infidelity changes things about ourselves and how/who we are in relationships from this point on and should not be taken lightly, whatever the role you play, be accountable for your own actions. If you decide to cheat, know you are hurting someone … Continue reading
Posted in Conflict, Divorce, Gratitude, Marriage, Relationships (other)
Tagged change, cheating, divorce, forgiveness, infidelity, lessons learned, marriage
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Next Steps – Infidelity Part 3
As either the cheater or the cheated, you can decide to stay or go. Generally, people stay for a couple of reasons: money, history, children, and/or love. Getting past infidelity is difficult. It is not for others to decide for … Continue reading
Posted in Conflict, Divorce, Gratitude, Marriage, Relationships (other), starting over
Tagged cheating, forgiveness, infidelity, lessons learned, starting over
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Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
SAD is a type of depression that generally occurs with the onset of winter. Typical indications: unhappiness or irritability, social withdraw, sluggish movements, lack of interest in work or activities, less energy or ability to concentrate, increased sleep, increased eating, … Continue reading
Posted in Anxiety, Depression, Miscellaneous
Tagged affective disorder, Anxiety, depression, sad, winter
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WHY THEY CHEAT – Infidelity Part 2
You name it. Accident, just happened, didn’t mean to, don’t know how it happened… I’ve heard it all. But I’ve also been present when clients discuss their fears, shame, feeling alone. Sometimes the one cheated on encourages this behavior by … Continue reading
Talking Points on Infidelity – Part 1
You have heard the saying, “It takes two to tango.” This applies to all relationships, the good and the bad. Answer me this: If your relationship is going well you share in that – why would you not believe you … Continue reading
Posted in Conflict, Divorce, Marriage, Relationships (other), starting over
Tagged cheated on, cheating, infidelity, who cheats
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Product of your upbringing
In what way are you most/least like your parents? … and what would you change? Have you ever heard yourself say, “I’ll never be like my mother.” or “My dad used to tell me…”? We bring lessons of our childhood … Continue reading
Posted in Blended or Step Family, parenting, Relationships (other), Step Moms
Tagged childhood, children, fathers, kids, mothers, parenting
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Rewrite History
Try using this technique when in conflict with another person. Often we “know” we are just as right as the other person believes they are. What if you switched perspectives? What if you argued the other persons point of view … Continue reading
Posted in Conflict, Gratitude, Marriage
Tagged acceptance, communication, conflict, conflict resolution, forgiveness, perspective, point of view
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Validation
June and I talk all the time. I may ask a question that starts a conversation or she will have a comment about an emotion that triggers a talk. We know that cancer is individual to people suffering from it … Continue reading
The Positive Aspect
Being positive has its place. Definitely. However, I’ve learned with June that it cannot be the only thing. We’ve talked about how being positive is one ingredient to tomorrow and feeling better. June talks about working with the hand she … Continue reading