As either the cheater or the cheated, you can decide to stay or go. Generally, people stay for a couple of reasons: money, history, children, and/or love. Getting past infidelity is difficult. It is not for others to decide for you, only you and your partner because you two are the ones doing the heavy lifting to get the proverbial train back on the tracks. Forgiveness will need to be exacted – this is done by listening, talking, and changing things in the relationship and yourself. ** Note, things will never be the same.
With that said, generally speaking, people get out for a couple of reasons: money, history, children, and/or love. Get it?! Think about it, the same arguments have opposing sides and those rationales are just as sound as staying. If you go, you and you alone get to decide because you will be the one dealing with the fallout. Forgiveness will still be necessary – look inside and out; and change things in yourself and your relationships. ** Note, things will never be the same.
Once a partner has cheated, the relationship will never go back to the way it was. There will always be moments of doubt and periods of returning anger. There will be a scar on the relationship. But just like the road rash or burn scar on your body, the crumbled bumper o your car – it is a reminder. A memory of what happened, who got hurt, what it cost, and the medication (work) required to make it better.