If your first reaction was, “OH NO”, then you have likely suffered a loss and the holidays are a depressing stress trigger for you. Or it’s a financial thing and that’s a different article.
As I’ve stated in the past, it doesn’t matter if your loss was last month or in the last decade, it is real and painful for you. The holidays, unfortunately, can make it insufferable.
Please consider your needs during this stressful period. Take time for yourself, eat right, prioritize, and set boundaries. Here are a few suggestions:
- Instead of hosting a big party – attend a party on your terms or host a cookie exchange with some friends.
- Instead of trading gifts – donate in their name.
- Instead of participating with holiday activities – volunteer your services at a shelter or serve meals to shut ins.
Remember ask for help, company, or alone time. Ask family and friend to help memorialize your loss and/or create new traditions and memories. Speaking of memorializing; I purchase a Cardinal ornament for my Christmas tree every year in honor of my grandmother.
What you do doesn’t have to be extravagant or huge, just personal to you. Of course, if you are struggling with your loss or need ideas to handle the holidays, do not hesitate to reach out for support; counseling, therapy, or support groups.