Ever wonder what goes on in the mind of a step child? What could they possibly have to be upset about? They get multiple Christmas’ gatherings, spoiled by one parent or both, duplicate toys, etc.
Well, it isn’t all its’ cracked up to be! All the things that are upsetting to children in a whole home are 10x more pronounced in a step home.
Now the arguments aren’t just with mom and dad, but mom, dad, and the step parent. The rules are so crazy it can be difficult to remember when, where, and how to be a kid.
Here are the step childs’ thoughts:
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* I will always want my parents to be together
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* I hate being in the middle of arguments
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* No, you tell mom
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* No, you tell dad
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* It is not fun going back and forth, packing for a weekend.
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* I don’t like leaving toys at once place or the other
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* It makes me uncomfortable to hear you talk about money (clothes, school, hobbies)
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* I don’t like it when you talk bad about each other
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* I miss Fido when he can’t come to your house
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* I feel left out of family events due to your schedule (holidays, vacations, reunions)
Consider your childs’ perspective in all you do. They didn’t ask for the divorce or to be in a new relationship. You need to be the adult and keep the child out of all adult decisions and discussions. Be the parents your child wants (needs) you to be.
“I’m a good kid, just wait until you get to know me“