Empty Nest Syndrome is the moment you realize it’s time to say goodbye to your “children” and welcome the adult you have helped them become. This is a natural part of life, a transition not just for you but for them. it is both a beginning and an end; and can lead to some of the richest years of your lives!
Survival tips:
- Take time to grieve – Grieve the loss of your previous life or role. It’s a process coming to terms with change. Perhaps there were missed opportunities or moments you would like to do over. It is normal to feel sad, to cry, to feel lost or useless, and even a little angry. At times, you may enjoy the peace and quiet – or resent it.
- Develop and connect with a Support System – Friends, extended family, church, clubs, organizations and community can help your through this transition. Take advantage of the extra time to connect with like minded individuals. Sometimes supporting others provides the most insight to yourself.
- Reconnect with your spouse – Don’t be surprised if you feel a bit like strangers when you find yourselves alone together. Share memories, talk about a time before children, plan your future, and spend time together doing new activities or just relaxing.
- Learn something new – Reinvent yourself. Put energy into learning something new or trying something you’ve never experienced before. Take up a new hobby, learn a new language, get a pet, take a class, or travel to your dream destination. Volunteer or get involved in community issues, perhaps run for office!
- Tackle old chores – The daily craziness of family life generally takes priority; so now, with extra time on your hands, tackle the attic or basement. Maybe redecorate or remodel, spruce up the landscape or plant a garden.
Our family is an incredible gift. You have earned a pat on the back… job well done! Now celebrate and enjoy. Whatever comes next – you deserve it!